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Let's Talk About not Talking About Online Dating...

I promised myself that this blog was only going to be dedicated to the sweet nothings I speak about being a single, young, successful lady. But let me just address a giant elephant in the room ... aka my entire past few weeks!

I am a single, LDS, goal driven, fun seeking lady. I have every desire, want, and need as most 25 year old women want. It would be nice to have the marriage, the house, the kids, the Etsy shop (who am I kidding I have no skills), however - I don't... not yet. And this is not because I don't want these things, and I haven't been trying to date and all that jazz, it just isn't happening.

I go to the single wards, I go out with my friends, I am putting myself out there. I am not the most flirtatious individual on the block, but as Tove Lo states "I have my moments". In other words, I have a lot to offer, and I have things going for me. I have a degree from Southern Utah University, a really cool job that I love, I live on my own, do everything on my own. I am I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T. Is this something that freaks guys out? Or have I just not found "that guy" to put up with me? I HAVE NO CLUE!

Okay so enough with selling myself, sheesh. It is like I am begging for an online dating profile, but I AM NOT!

Let us just address the fact that everywhere I turn my mom, brothers, and even my father are telling me "go on LDS singles" "go on Tinder" "I will pay for your LDS Planet account". It is not that I am dissing these means of meeting someone, I know a few people who have successfully met the love of their life online. BUT this is something I DO NOT WANT TO DO RIGHT NOW!

Let's talk about NOT talking about online dating for a sec... okay? In other states aside from Utah (I love it here DO NOT get me wrong), however, in other states... it is ok to be 25 - LDS - Single - Career Driven - Loving Life -with a dream of being a Techno Singer (well... this is more so a dream than anything else).

Right now I am just having a good time, and I will keep doing what I am doing. When I feel it is necessary - I will try online dating. I have NOT promised anyone anything, like my mother keeps assuming I did. But let me live my life. I am at such a good point in my life.

So this is to all my single ladies and gents (Mormon or not)....

IT IS OK TO BE SINGLE!!!! Shout it from the rooftops, sing it out loud. My only stipulation to this is ... it is ok to be single but only when you have something going for you. Like a job, perhaps a career, perhaps you own your own home, or you travel and are doing something meaningful with your time.

I heard once (in church) that you have to be what you are expecting in your future mate. So if you are just chilling in your mom's basement playing WOW and you're 30 ... that is not trying. I understand that marriage may not be for everyone, but for me it is a goal to look to.

Set goals, live your life, and do fun things. Who knows what you will find in the process.

Preach.

Until next time.

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